REFLECT: The Week I Realised I Wasn't a Problem That Needed Fixing

“Owning our worthiness is the act of being unapologetic about who we are.” — Oprah Winfrey

For most of my life, I thought I was the problem that needed to be fixed. I was always told I was too much, too loud, or too emotional. I thought I wasn't enough. I spent so much of my life clipping my own wings just to fit into what I thought society and people wanted of me.

This meant I did what so many of us do -

I became the fixer of myself and others.
The people pleaser, the one who stayed quiet for fear of upsetting someone.
The high-achiever who could hold it all together, as long as no one saw the cracks.

I turned myself into a project, a checklist, a never-ending self-improvement mission of things I needed to change to make me a better person, all based on an unachievable benchmark I had set for myself.

Wake up, caffeine on.
Smash the gym.
Hustle like my worth depended on it.
Pour a wine and pretend I wasn’t drowning.
Collapse. Do it all again.

I thought if I just worked harder on myself, I’d finally feel better, I would finally be enough, and I would finally fit in. But no matter how “disciplined” I was, no matter how hard I pushed and pushed, something always felt off.

Here’s what I finally realised: I wasn’t the problem. The pressure I was putting on myself was.

I didn’t need to be fixed. I needed to listen to myself. I needed to stop abandoning myself to meet the expectations of society and everyone else.

And when I stopped treating my body and my life like something broken that needed fixing?
That’s when everything started to change.

I softened, I became kinder to myself, and my mind
I slowed down, I allowed myself to be, and I allowed myself the rest I needed so badly.
I listened, not to the noise around me, but to me and the whisper deep inside.

RISE: Your Weekly Glow-Up Check-In

This week’s energy: You’re not here to perform. You’re here to feel.

Try this instead of pushing:

1. Give yourself full permission to say “no” this week, even if it disappoints someone.

2. Trade one hustle moment for stillness, no productivity, just presence.

3. Journal: “Where am I still trying to earn love, instead of receiving it?”

Affirmation of the Week:

“I am not a problem to solve. I am a person to love. I get to rest. I get to rise. I get to choose me.”

REAL TALK:

What if the real reason you’re exhausted is because you’ve spent your whole life trying to prove you’re not too much?

What if it’s not about doing more, fixing more, pleasing more?

What if your glow-up starts when you finally come home to you?

GLOW-DOWN: Waitlist is Open

This isn’t about doing it all.
It’s about doing what actually supports your energy, your joy, and your nervous system.

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We create simple, science-backed routines that bring you back to yourself.

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No shame. No pressure. Just you, learning to trust yourself again and thrive.

Here’s to setting boundaries, dropping the people-pleasing, and learning that your worth was never up for debate. You’re not here to shrink, you’re here to shine, and I'm right here cheering you on.

💋 Your Sober Hype Girl